When Does Sex Become a Chore?

This question is easy. It becomes a chore when you allow it to.

That’s pretty simple. The hard question is “how” do you prevent it from becoming a chore? How do you NOT grumble and groan when your lover ask for it AGAIN?

Well, for starters, stop grumbling. Start getting excited. For Pete’s Sake, actually enjoy it.

This is harder for women to obtain then for men, DUH! Men usually ejaculate while women are left laying on the bed imagining a super orgasm. It seems to be a dream, a far fetched dream because maybe you haven’t had a orgasm in a very long time. Maybe you forgot what a orgasm really feels like. The earth shattering, toe curling, head rolling orgasm that makes you feel like you are going to blow up from the inside out.

Sweet, Sweet Orgasm.

I must tell you. This isn’t that far fetched. It could be the time to introduce potions or Toys into your love life. *gasp* You may be thinking: “Did she just say TOYS in the bedroom?”and I am saying: “Oh, I sure did say toys in the bedroom!!!!”

Stop whining. Listen up and pay close attention. Toys and potions paired together along with the help and excitement of doing it with your lover will be a sure fire way to wake that beast of an orgasm that is just dying to get out. Trying to escape you but you just won’t let it.

Release your inner orgasm. Find some potions and toys in the comfort of your own home. Via internet. Some great websites are:

www.adameve.com

or of course go to my personal favorite (because I sell “magic in a bottle” and I also sell toys!!!)

www.partygals.biz

Now the next step would be to introduce your new “friend” to your lover. This could be tricky at times. Especially if you are a man and you are wanting to bring the “buzz” into the bedroom, your woman may dismiss the idea all together. But women need to make sure their male lover is not offended or take it personally. They may think that they just isn’t doing it for ya. That their “man dangler” isn’t the “magic wand” they once thought it was.

You are going to have to stroke the ego a bit here ladies. Make sure they know that they are magnificent lovers and that you are satisfied with their tally whacker however, you want to mix up the routine a bit. It could take awhile. You may have to stroke the ego for some time. But eventually, they will be willing and will understand that you are only you.

Just stay away from anal toys for awhile. Those are only for the brave and the experienced. Some men may pucker up and head for the hills if you go down that route. Just trying to help.

Signs Somebody Wants to “Come Out” to You

A Peek Into The Art Of Seduction

The art of seduction–or the ability to persuade people of the opposite sex to like you–is something many crave to understand but few master. Many men and women would like to comprehend and use the law of attraction to make members of the opposite sex gravitate to them more but for some reason, they don’t. At least, not properly.

You see, the art of seduction can be a slippery concept. Many people equate it with smooth-talking, good-looks, or even being someone you’re not. And that’s where failure sets in because the art of seduction isn’t about manipulation or fooling people into liking a part of you that isn’t real. It’s about being genuinely likeable and expressive in creative ways.

That’s right; there are no mysterious rituals involved, no fantastic, otherworldly rules to follow. The art of seduction is all about self-confident expression and practicing the law of attraction. Consider the following tips.

The Art of Seduction Tip#1: Dress Right.

First things first–you must wear the right stuff. You’ve heard of “dress for success,” right? Well, the law of attraction certainly requires that people look good for chemistry to happen. It is a plain fact of life that women gravitate to men (and vice versa) who know how to carry themselves when it comes to clothing.

Now gentlemen, that doesn’t mean you need to be in a suit and tie all the time to attract women–you might be a biker dude looking to bag that attractive biker girl you see hanging out at the bar every Saturday. And ladies, you don’t need to dress in skimpy outfits everyday to make men notice them– sometimes a pair of pants and an understated jacket is all you need.

Just be mindful that your clothes and appearance suit the occasion. By all means, look scruffy if you’re going to a rock concert, or wear baggy shorts if going on a group hiking trip. Just remember that it’s always beneficial if you pay attention to your appearance.

Try wearing clothes that have good color coordination (blue jeans + white t-shirt = hot dude; orange pants + purple, embroidered jacket = death sentence). Men, take regular baths and cut your fingernails. Use modest aftershave. Women, only show skin when you’re truly comfortable with it.

Avoid being outrageous; minimalism is the new sexy. Style your hair right. Use tooth whitening products to make your smile all the more dazzling. (The last part is very important–a killer smile goes a long way in capturing someone’s heart!) Make sure your teeth are as white as can be. Here’s seduction 101 for you–the nicer you look, the more people will notice you. It’s the first crucial step to attracting the opposite sex.

The Art of Seduction Tip#2: Pay Attention.

Nothing stops the law of attraction from working between people than the inability of one person to pay attention to another. The golden rule of seduction is simple–be genuinely into the person you want to seduce. If you want to know why some people can’t master the art of seduction, it’s because they are not really interested in what the other person is all about.

The seduction of a woman or a man involves a significant amount of attention to what makes them tick. Hence, you must be able and open to asking them about their thoughts on different issues. Seek their opinions. Listen to both their joys and grievances. Pay attention to what they’re saying and seek to understand what they are trying to communicate. People will gravitate to you quickly once they realize you are an accepting and understanding person who’s interested in more things than your own life.

The Art of Seduction Tip#3: Be Thoughtful.

Nothing makes people happier than a gift or a token of appreciation. And if you’re out to seduce someone, whether an acquaintance at work or your wife of 20 years, it’s always a great idea to woo that person with items that prove you think about them on a regular basis.

You don’t have to be lavish, just thoughtful. Cards are fine; an occasional drink is good. Tickets to the cinema are great; tickets to a sporting event are awesome too. Candies, books, CDs, flowers–anything to show you care can be a great way of flirting and being noticed.

The Art of Seduction Tip#4: Move Slow.

This may not work for everyone but generally, it’s better to move slowly than to rush things. Don’t pressure people; the law of attraction doesn’t appreciate heavy deadlines. Focus on your body language flirting, pay attention to other people’s lives, make sure you look good at all times, and let things grow organically. The ultimate seduction is one that isn’t forced; rather, it’s one that’s birthed and allowed to mature properly.

The Art of Seduction Tip#5: Be Creative.

It was mentioned at the beginning that seduction and the law of attraction is a matter of creative expression. Well, this is where creativity truly comes into play. Whether it’s wife seduction, secretary seduction, or hypnotic seduction, the more creative you are, the more powerful your approach will be.

Light candles during dinnertime. Put on good music during lovemaking. You’ll be surprised at how effective these art of seduction clichés truly are.

You can also opt to step out of your “comfort zone.” Women, have you ever tried to learn pole dancing for your men? Men, do you offer your ladies beverages other than beer? Have you tried cooking exotic meals, going on faraway trips, trying new things in bed–basically trying anything that you would not normally do, shocking your partner into “submission”?

Here’s a good tip on flirting: be different all the time. Don’t settle on just one way of doing things; be varied and daring. Above all, be creative. There’s always more than one way to do things.

Remember, blend these tips and you should be on your way to getting the art of seduction right–and make your relationships richer and more fulfilling.

Belinda Sinclair empowers people to increase their Wow Factor through personal development and image makeovers. Learn how to achieve a dazzling smile with home tooth whitening by visiting http://toothwhitening.novawhite.com/?source=ea2 for affordable tooth whitening systems.

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Ending a Relationship Gracefully

Ending a relationship is never easy. When you feel you must end a relationship most people find it challenging as they have feelings towards their partner and do not wish to hurt them.

More often than not, breaking up is as hard on the person ending the relationship as it is on the person being broken up with. Realize that a person is breaking up has nothing to do with caring about another person. Caring about somebody and wanting a relationship are not the same.

The majority of people on this planet do not like to hurt others, especially somebody they have been close to. Guilt has been used more often than not to keep relationships together. Fight this urge and believe in yourself! When you allow guilt as a way to stop a break up you not only cheat yourself out of having a good and true relationship, you’ll foster resentment towards the other person which could lead to greater pain and heart ache in the future. Why would you want to be with somebody who makes you feel bad by allowing you to feel guilty? Respect yourself!

A man should exit gracefully by planning the break up, to minimize the grief caused to his partner

Don’t just ignore her hoping she will notice and go away. You might have learned a little bit about push /pull as a term we use in seduction. That only tends to bring somebody in closer. Which is the exact opposite of what you want.

The I think you’re a great girl and I don’t deserve you line will seem ok to her at first, but later on she will start to resent that. She could also go into how you DO deserve her and try to convince you.

Honesty really is the best policy. Treating the relationship, and the person, with respect and dignity helps soften the blow.

When you break up, Do it in person. Show some integrity and sincerity to tell her that the relationship isn’t going anywhere. In our workshops we teach how verbal communication is only 7% of the total communication between people. If she also sees closed off body language it will be easier for closure for her eventually.

Telling somebody you are breaking up in person is never easy, but you owe it to her to break the news to her personally. This means not on the phone, definitely not over e-mail, but rather, face to face where she can get eye contact and read your body language. The universal line of “ we need to talk.” should be given in advance. This allows her to prepare for what is coming and helps soften the blow a little bit. Do not put too much time between the “We need to talk” and actual breakup as the waiting time in between is very uncomfortable if delayed long.

On doing some research on this I read a suggestion about breaking up in the exact same place you met if possible. This is to suggest that the relationship has completed a circle. A place where she has a lot of happy memories might help neutralize some of the new sad ones.

Ending a relationship gracefully means speaking our piece without blame or judgment and not taking responsibility for another’s feelings. It is important to make eye contact,and give body language that is open while you are communicating (which suggests you are VERY open to what you are saying) than give closed off body language after finishing your piece. To suggest you are not open to hearing anything else. Say your words sincerely, leave no room for doubt, and never back down- especially when she starts to cry and you feel horrible.

Than give that person some space usually a few months at least. Do not try to get cozy with the person as this can really mess with somebody’s head a lot as they will use this as hope that you are getting back together. This is the only way to keep pain to a minimum when ending a relationship.

Robert Torrey is one of the dating coaches/trainers for Attract and Date Corp. Attract and Date gives workshops that teach men to pick up women in nightclubs. Their website is http://www.attractanddate.com A free newsletter is available on through the website and when you subscribe you’ll get a free MP3 on how to destory dating fears.

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To Try or Not to Try: Benefits of Introducing Toys to Your Relationship

First things first, the use of a toy in no way implies you are a freak, your marriage is bad or your man is incompetent. Buy why? Why go for something different when the “real thing” is just fine. Well sit back, put your feet up and let me explain.

Many times in my career I have heard women say that “It’s against God” , “My husbands just fine the way he is” or “My boyfriend doesn’t let me have one”. While you may feel that all of that is true please know that I do completely respect your opinion however, I would like to take the opportunity to show you that there is an entirely new way for you to add a little “oomph” to your love life.

Sex Toys come is all different forms but each type has the same purpose, to enhance. So instead of calling it a “Sex Toy” lets call it a ” Romance Enhancement” from this point .Sounds better already , doesn’t it? So what can a romance enhancement really do for you , you say? Oh the endless possibilities!

1. Clitoral Stimulation. 85% of woman cannot reach an orgasm unless they have some sort of clitoral stimulation. During sex this area is rarely stimulated with out the use of an enhancement.

2. Reaching orgasm quicker or at the same time as your partner. The use of an enhancement can actually make you able to reach orgasm at the same time as your man. Imagine how much fun that could be!

3.Bringing a couple closer. Using an enhancement together with your man allows him to explore your body in different ways. By doing so, he will learn new exciting ways and exactly where you like to be touched.

4.Improving Sex . Romance enhancements can improve all different kinds of sex play. Oral, Masturbation, intercourse and even Mutual Masturbation.

Ok so now that you know how it can improve your love life you still may have a few mental obstacles to over come.

1. The Husband/Boyfriend is uncomfortable with it. This one is actually very easy. First off, you will want to purchase something that does not necessarily look like a penis or that could be intimidating to your man. You may want to start off buy purchasing a bullet, a vibrating C ring or a masturbation sleeve for him. All 3 of these items can be used as a couple and do not look threatening. Encourage him to use the items on you and vice versa. Use these items as a couple slowly and then once both players are comfortable you can take it to the next level.

2. It’s against God. if you are married, I encourage you to check out www.themarriagebed.com This site will go over what’s ok and what’s not ok according to the Bible. If you have questions or your just not sure of what your doing or thinking of doing is acceptable in a Christian way of life, give that site a try. It really breaks down each type of act and lets you know what the Bible’s stand is. Ultimately you will need to make the final decision for whatever you feel is acceptable but this will give you a great point of view.

3.I think may feel weird using something like this, its just not natural and I don’t know if I need it. You know your body better than anyone else. If you are 100% satisfied with your sexual health then you are absolutely right you don’t NEED anything. Remember these are “enhancements” not necessities. These items are created to take what you have and make it better, kind of like adding a spice! How much spice you choose to add is entirely up to your own personal taste.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this article and stay tuned next month for information on “How to give a sensual massage” (http://www.heatherspleasures.com/SensualMassage.htm)In the mean time if you would like assistance picking out a Romance Enhancement to spice up your love life, please do not hesitate to call or email us We will be happy to assist you. You may also want to check out ” Choosing the Right Type of Toy:” (http://www.heatherspleasures.com/typeoftoy.htm)

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